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Diane Gill Morris was 25 when her first son, Kenny, was born. About 15 months later, she and her husband realized that he’d stopped talking. By the time Kenny was officially diagnosed with autism, Diane’s second son, Theo, was eight months old. Less than a year later, he was also showing signs of the disorder. Diane left a comment on our Facebook page in response to an article about people who are considering having kids. “I have sacrificed a huge part of who I am—given up my career, gone broke, accepted social isolation,” she wrote. “If someone had told me this is what it would be like, I never would have had kids.”

We first shared this episode in December 2015. Diane also guest hosted Death, Sex & Money in 2016. Tomorrow, look out for a new episode with Diane about what’s happened since her sons have become young adults and she’s faced new challenges as a caregiver.

Listen to the first episode on Death, Sex, and Money.

We first met Diane Gill Morris three years ago, when her two sons, Kenny and Theo, were in their early teens. Both of them are autistic, and Diane worried about where they would end up living—and who would end up caring for them—when they became adults. “When they were little, it was all about figuring out how to help them,” Diane told us. “Now it’s, okay, this is who they are. I can continue to help them grow and evolve….But the hard part is just accepting that this is quite conceivably the rest of my life.”

We recently checked in with Diane, who moved with her entire family into a house that seemed perfect for them to live in together as they aged. But when her younger son, Theo, started having violent outbursts at home, their plan of continuing to care for him was thrown into question.

Listen to the follow-up episode on Death, Sex, and Money.

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