When the clock won’t stop
broken pocket watch in the sands of time

My mother won’t die.

I know, it’s awful to say. I don’t particularly want her to die, but it’s inevitable. She’s dying. She’s been dying. I can’t change that.

The problem is that she won’t let go of the dying part and move into the next phase.

Dying is an awful, awful process.

If you’ve ever seen someone who’s dying, you know what I mean.

There’s nothing I can do to really make her comfortable. Her body is worn out.

It’s bone against bone. Paper-thin skin. Everything aches.

She’s too weak to do anything.

But still she persists.


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  1. I know how you feel. I hate to watch my dad suffer each day and there is nothing I can do to help him. Prayers for you and yours.

  2. The last couple of months with my Mom were so tough, knowing it could come at any time but not sure how much warning we would have. Then when the end was near it was very obvious but those last 24 or so hours were so hard; we just wanted it to be over. There was a peace, albeit a sad one, when it came.

  3. My mother won’t die? Won’t even read it.

  4. My mother in her last year would cry out for Jesus to take her, wanted badly to know why she couldn’t just die.

  5. I am at this same place, thank you for saying it so eloquently!

  6. I felt like this with my dad , he was 102 and was in hospice for 2 weeks before he passed. It was a terrible terrible thing to watch him waste away to nothing

  7. I went through that with my mom – 6 long months

  8. As long as your loved one is able to give you a smile, then be greatful….
    Soon enough, the time will come when you will yearn for the rest of your days, to see that smile once more…..

  9. So true. My mother is in pain all the time and her health is terrible. Getting around is difficult. Confined to bed much of the day. But her doctors keep giving her meds ($2500/mo) that literally keep her heart beating but offer no improved quality of life. She says she has to take the meds because the doctors tell her to. And so it goes…

  10. bring it on! as a carer for wife,i will have rest.


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