What’s “dirty” self-care, and why doesn’t it work?
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the self-care we’re currently engaging in is mostly a consumerized one predicated on attaining standards laid out by white supremacy, capitalism and the patriarchy, which means when we’re engaging in these acts, they’re more about “fixing” ourselves, rather than nourishing ourselves

Many of us are waking up to this fact, but many of us are still caught in the seduction of these systems and the low self-worth and self-loathing they engender. However, we know at some level, that something is wrong, something doesn’t feel good, and I think we try to respond by engaging in four types of self-care that, even though we’re hoping for otherwise, don’t always help.

In this week’s post, I’m going to break down these four types of self-care, what they look like, why they don’t really help, and offer you a fifth type of self-care that, in my hopes and wishes, will help you understand you are already whole, perfect, worthy, and enough; you just may need some guidance to getting there.

something like meditating or journaling, which can be true acts of self-care, might feel draining or dread-inducing if you’re bringing the energy of shame and ‘fixing’ yourself to them.

Read more in The Sunday Soother.

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