helen reis' mother as a young mother of a child with down syndrome

Soon we will mark the five year anniversary of my mother’s death. Soon it will be five years since I became the primary caregiver of my loving and fabulous brother Paul, a 47-year old man with Down syndrome.

In this time, I have grieved my mother twice. I have grieved the mother I thought I knew and then the mother I have come to know as I have tried filled her caring shoes.

Read more on Helen’s website.

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