People are often curious about how Lene and I ended up together. This is doubly true when I tell them that Lene was disabled long before I met her. They can imagine themselves in a relationship where their partner could end up with a chronic illness or disability—people do tend to take “in sickness and in health” seriously—but starting a relationship with a disabled person?

here’s a stereotype about men in relationships always wanting to solve whatever problem their partner has. We supposedly always reach for solutions even when all our partners want is to talk and rant and complain. When it comes to Lene’s pain, I can’t solve the problem. Not completely. There are ways I can help her deal with the pain, though.

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