poetry by Kayla Blau

When her body became a warzone,

I sat wobbly-kneed in Dr. Smith’s sterilized walls, pretending to color.

He had all types of schemes and weapons and missiles to launch

inside my mother’s body.

 

To fight the bad guys.

 

This is how we conceptualized it together;

Me, all stringy hair and loose teeth,

Her, fuzzy scalp and aching bones

I like to think this juvenile explanation helped her too.

That the wartorn cells and casualties of chemo

Came to mean more than just survival.

 

She fought the urge to become a prisoner inside her own body,

This will kill the rapidly dividing poisonous cells, but may kill some healthy ones too

inside her own mind,

You have six to nine months to live (have I taken this pill yet today?)

inside her own home,

Mommy doesn’t want to be sick anymore, sweetheart

 

When the time came, my mother flew no white flag.

She offered no truce, showed not an ounce of defeat.

Two years past the doctor’s expiration date,

she left with grace.

I refuse to accept that she “lost her battle.”

She simply won unconventionally.

_______________

She was taken after summer’s storm

Pulled, the blues of her eyes

She, her – it’s foreign to refer to mother

so informally now,

like

present

tense

Questions to the waves of her grave like

“When did you know love?”

“The blue dress or the black one?”

“What’d you think of the war – all of them?

Did you march in Vietnam protests or roll your eyes?”

When did your bitten tongue turn light gold?

Instead,

I recall the way in which she folded towels,

crease out in the closet,

so we could grab one readily, she explained,

for an impromptu trip to the lake or

whoosh

how she splayed warm sheets over my giggling limbs,

freshly cleansed, still warm,

Like I thought her cheek would be

As I kissed her tomb

Goodbye

 

______________

 

The atypical cells divided & attacked

No amount of pink ribbons

Or celebrity endorsements

Can call truce for that

 

Hours in white-walled holding cells,

holding our breath,

holding hands,

holding it together,

not even fooling ourselves

 

Cancer became a swear word

Whispered between relatives like the plague

Shushed into silence like it would stop spreading that way

 

It spread anyway.

 

Submission, remission, readmission

When hospital beds become familiar

Scans, biopsies, blood tests

When the nurse sneaks you extra pudding

“for being so patient”

When your blood’s blood is victim and all you can be is

Patient.

Poetry by Kayla Blau

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  1. Bless you for this. It speaks to my heart. We, my husband and I, are also “winning unconventionally”. Our daily endeavor is to live each day with the disease in his blood, his lungs, his brain. Each day is a win. Each day is one more than we’ve been told we’d have. We travel that path of submission, remission, relapse and readmission… And patience. Gratitude and patience.

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