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April 8, 2018

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This.

I hate it.

I hate that I have to know what it is.

I hate that I have to use it more and more every day.

I hate that I actually own this after “renting for two years” through my insurance company.

I hate that it tends to break and is no longer covered once you own it and the vicious cycle starts again.

I hate having to clean it after it’s used.

I hate that I have a favorite tip to use.  (The soft one that won’t knock her teeth out during a struggle)

I hate hearing it.

I hate hearing it in my sleep.

I hate having to sleep with one ear cocked, just incase.

I hate that she sees me cry every time I have to use it.

I hate knowing I have the strength of three men when I have to hold her down while using it.

I hate knowing of the silence, seconds before she starts to choke and I need this.

I hate mom’s that only have to use a blue bulb sucker.

I hate mom’s who think the blue bulb sucker is violent.

I hate that sometimes I grateful for this machine over the bulb bulb sucker, because those things SUCK!

moms, I don’t hate you I just wish I had my ignorance back…

Chrissy Gaskill 

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  1. … What is it?

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  2. … What is it?

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  3. I asked the doctor why it is so loud, and if there is a quieter model available (like those in the hospital). He told me for those used in the hospital, the motor is actually stored somewhere else, only the tubes come into and go out from the different rooms.

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  4. I asked the doctor why it is so loud, and if there is a quieter model available (like those in the hospital). He told me for those used in the hospital, the motor is actually stored somewhere else, only the tubes come into and go out from the different rooms.

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  5. I have been using this suction machine for 18 years. I just buy them off ebay to make sure I always have a strong working machine on hand. I do have a helpful hint. Make a solution out of tap water and Listerine mouth wash. After each use, dip the suction tip into the solution. This flushes the suction and keeps the tubing clean. The Listerine helps keep the canister looking clean after it is rinsed and it also illuminates any odor. You can add more Listerine to the rinse water if you need more odor control. Good Luck.

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  6. I have been using this suction machine for 18 years. I just buy them off ebay to make sure I always have a strong working machine on hand. I do have a helpful hint. Make a solution out of tap water and Listerine mouth wash. After each use, dip the suction tip into the solution. This flushes the suction and keeps the tubing clean. The Listerine helps keep the canister looking clean after it is rinsed and it also illuminates any odor. You can add more Listerine to the rinse water if you need more odor control. Good Luck.

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  7. Wow! So powerful-captured it all! Yes, I hate that I know what this is too.

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  8. Wow! So powerful-captured it all! Yes, I hate that I know what this is too.

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  9. Hate cleaning it, but I do put a little vinegar in the bottom after every cleaning, cuts down on the smell.

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  10. Hate cleaning it, but I do put a little vinegar in the bottom after every cleaning, cuts down on the smell.

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  11. As invasive as I’ll ever want to get with another human. No joy.

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  12. As invasive as I’ll ever want to get with another human. No joy.

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  13. Two edged sword, it’s a love hate but know your child needs it to survive. Our granddaughter has been trached since 9 weeks old. It was removed for almost 14months then had to have it again. She is now going to be 13 this year. I guess for me the fear of the suction machine not working when she would need it is worse then hating it.

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  14. Two edged sword, it’s a love hate but know your child needs it to survive. Our granddaughter has been trached since 9 weeks old. It was removed for almost 14months then had to have it again. She is now going to be 13 this year. I guess for me the fear of the suction machine not working when she would need it is worse then hating it.

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    • Was that he hair style today. I love that look on her.

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    • This was before her haircut, but she can still pull that look off

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  15. Mixed feelings I hate ever having to own it. But it keeps him alive and if he’s plugging off and panics he hears that loud noise and he knows mommas got him we will get it and that means everything.

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  16. Mixed feelings I hate ever having to own it. But it keeps him alive and if he’s plugging off and panics he hears that loud noise and he knows mommas got him we will get it and that means everything.

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