This video got me thinking about how I have lied to my loved ones. I lied to Nicholas when I said it would be alright after his hip surgery (the truth is, I had no idea… and in the end, it wasn’t alright). I lied to Nick and to my Mom when I said “honestly, it’s no trouble at all!” (and I will continue telling this lie until I can no longer be of help). I lied often when I said “I’m fine!”
But I tell the truth, too. If a procedure is going to hurt, I always tell Nick. If I’m worried, I tell my loved ones. And if I think we should go to the hospital or call the doctor, I tell them – I tell my family the plans I believe we should make for their care.
What lies do you tell your loved one?
Donna Thomson is a caregiver, author and activist. Her book, The Four Walls of My Freedom: Lessons I’ve Learned From a Life of Caregiving (House of Anansi Press, 2014) is available from all major booksellers in the USA and Canada.