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I started being a care giver for my wife about five or six years ago. As she slipped into dementia I took over more and more of her duties and took greater care of her. This was a second marriage for me, I had a similar experience with my first wife who died of ovarian cancer in 1999. It was a third marriage for my wife.

About a year ago her children wanted me to give up my duties and place her in a facility better equipped to deal with her needs. I fought this for a few months but then realized that with my 83rd birthday approaching and health declining that perhaps now was the time.

We moved her in mid-July and she died in mid-September of a heart attack. Moving her took most of the burden off my back; but I really felt guilty for a while that she had to die away from my care. Yet, I also was glad in a way that she died in someone else’s care; as then her children would not be blaming me for her death.

My thoughts for the rest of you caregivers is that letting go of some of your responsibilities is sometimes for the best.


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