Clocking In: ‘Would You Change My Mother’s Diaper for $10 an Hour?’

Clocking In: ‘Would You Change My Mother’s Diaper for $10 an Hour?’

On a Tuesday in April, Michelle Walton woke up in Plantation, Florida, at eight. Her back hurt. It’s a pain that’s been omnipresent since the 48-year-old injured it caring for her mother, a woman she says she loves deeply but who is challenging even on the best day....
There for him

There for him

His independence taken by stroke; he fights back and I am there for him.   Near, aware, anticipating his needs, but reaching out only as he calls.   Standing silently by as he struggles to regain all that he has lost   Recognizing little steps, slow...

The Day Our Lives Changed Again

It was July 5th of this year and I had canceled my appointments for the day because sometimes it’s just too much. Life is too much. Being ‘on’ is too much. Sometimes I just need a few hours alone to recharge. My dad hasn’t been well for years. Since I was in college...
Learning from a loved one

Learning from a loved one

Years ago, when I became my mother’s caregiver, I didn’t realize it would be a learning experience. My mother suffered a series of mini strokes that damaged her mind. Her doctor didn’t test her for Alzheimer’s disease because, as he noted, “We already know the...
My Mom Had A Massive Stroke And I Became Her Caregiver

I Moved Home To Take Care Of My Parents With Dementia And It’s a Thankless Job

At 56 years of age, I returned home to care for my parents. Both of them have dementia. I​ lived in ​their ​unfinished basement with spiders and centipedes. That was four years ago. Now, I have ​less money and fewer prospects.​ My siblings are not interested. My...