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Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

by External Article | May 20, 2023 | Housing | 0 comments

“It’s not just packing and unpacking,” Ms. Buysse said. “It’s working with the clients and the family for weeks or months, going through a lifetime of possessions. You need to be a good listener.” … My sister and I hired a senior move manager for our father, who...
The Agony of Putting Your Life on Hold to Care for Your Parents

The Agony of Putting Your Life on Hold to Care for Your Parents

by External Article | Mar 28, 2023 | Caring for a Parent, Finances, Millennial Generation, Sandwich Generation | 0 comments

Randi Schofield tried her best to not dwell on all the ways her life changed, on the pieces of herself that got lost in the shuffle. She was a 34-year-old single mother who, not long ago, was in the throes of a big life transition. She had left her full-time job of...
I Took Over My Father’s Finances at 25. The Lessons Were Hard-Won.

I Took Over My Father’s Finances at 25. The Lessons Were Hard-Won.

by External Article | Mar 25, 2023 | Caring for a Parent, Finances, Millennial Generation, Sandwich Generation | 0 comments

Six years ago, I took over my father’s finances. … I was 25 and had just moved in with my boyfriend, who is now my husband, and was working in New York as a health reporter making what felt like barely enough to cover my commute. I knew nothing about money — and...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

My Child Is in an Impossible Place, and I Am There With Her

by External Article | Feb 17, 2023 | Caring for a Child | 0 comments

In my family, we talk about hard things. That’s not to say we are morose. We are not. Nor are we particularly profound. If anything, we lean into the ridiculous, and the silly, whenever possible. At the same time, in over three years of managing our daughter Orli’s...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

How a Sprawling Hospital Chain Ignited Its Own Staffing Crisis

by External Article | Dec 15, 2022 | Caregiver News, For Friends & Family, For Professional Caregivers | 0 comments

At a hospital in a Chicago suburb last winter, there were so few nurses that psychiatric patients with Covid were left waiting a full day for beds, and a single aide was on hand to assist with 32 infected patients. Nurses were so distraught about the inadequate...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Who Will Care for ‘Kinless’ Seniors?

by External Article | Dec 3, 2022 | Caring for a Friend, Caring for a Neighbor, For Friends & Family, Planning | 0 comments

When her sister died three years ago, Ms. Ingersoll joined the ranks of older Americans considered “kinless”: without partners or spouses, children or siblings. Covid-19 has largely suspended her occasional get-togethers with friends, too. Now, she said, “my social...
Am I Obligated to Look After My Insufferable Mother?

Am I Obligated to Look After My Insufferable Mother?

by External Article | Oct 4, 2022 | Caring for a Parent, Caring for a Sibling, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

My mother has an undiagnosed mental illness that makes her incapable of accepting reality and that has caused her to be emotionally abusive my entire life…What options do my sister and I have as she ages and her living situation deteriorates further? And what...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Seeking Marriage Equality for People With Disabilities

by External Article | Aug 25, 2022 | Caring for a Romantic Partner, Finances, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

Within weeks of the Tarpy’s date, both knew they had found their forever partner. But three months after Mr. Contreras proposed in his Salinas, Calif., home in December 2016 and Ms. Long said an ecstatic “yes,” Ms. Long sat him down for a talk. “I told him, ‘Mark,...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

‘A Last Act of Intimate Kindness’

by External Article | Aug 19, 2022 | Caring for a Sibling, Short Term Caregiving | 0 comments

I am the only family member with whom Jay maintained contact for the last three decades. Over that time, we communicated exclusively through email and cards I sent to a post office box. … The hospital discharged Jay with a bag hanging from his chest to drain...
His PTSD, and My Struggle to Live With It

His PTSD, and My Struggle to Live With It

by External Article | Jul 22, 2022 | Caring for a Romantic Partner, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

That attack marked the beginning of our struggle to navigate a relationship transformed by trauma. Since then, I think I’ve read just about everything that has been written about how to support a loved one healing from post-traumatic stress. Among other things, I’ve...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Jobs Aplenty, but a Shortage of Care Keeps Many Women From Benefiting

by External Article | Jul 12, 2022 | Caring for a Child, Finances, Millennial Generation, Working Family Caregivers | 0 comments

A dearth of child care and elder care choices is causing many women to reorganize their working lives and prompting some to forgo jobs altogether, hurting the economy at a moment when companies are desperate to hire, and forcing trade-offs that could impair careers....
How Talking to the Dead Dislodged Some of My Sorrow

How Talking to the Dead Dislodged Some of My Sorrow

by External Article | Jul 6, 2022 | Grief | 0 comments

I began leaving voice-mail messages for my mother about a month after she died. It was February last year, during some of the darkest days of the pandemic for my family. My teenage daughters were mourning their grandmother while largely cut off from their friends and...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

In ‘Corsicana,’ Will Arbery Puts Art, Family and Down Syndrome Onstage

by External Article | Jun 15, 2022 | Art, Caring for a Sibling, Millennial Generation | 0 comments

Arbery, who grew up in Dallas with seven sisters in a conservative Catholic milieu similar to that of “Heroes,” had always wanted to write a play about his relationship with Julia, who is two years older (as she likes to remind him). But he didn’t want to write, as he...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Sabrina’s Parents Love Her. But the Meltdowns Are Too Much.

by External Article | Jun 1, 2022 | Care Work Library, Caring for a Child, Housing, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

Sabrina, who was given a diagnosis of autism coupled with a rare genetic disorder, has exhibited aggressive behavior since she was a little girl. Now she towers over her parents. When she is happy, she gives them great big hugs, knocking them slightly off balance....
Sizing Up the Decisions of Older Adults

Sizing Up the Decisions of Older Adults

by External Article | May 9, 2022 | Finances, For Friends & Family, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

Adult Protective Services agencies in every state receive reports of possible neglect, self-neglect, abuse or exploitation of older people and other vulnerable adults. But agency workers consistently face a bedeviling question: Does the adult in question have the...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

In Difficult Cases, ‘Families Cannot Manage Death at Home’

by External Article | Mar 26, 2022 | Death & Dying | 0 comments

Where do people most want to be when they die? At home, they tell researchers — in familiar surroundings, in comfort, with the people they love. an article this month in The New England Journal of Medicine that pointedly asks, “Is There Really ‘No Place Like Home’?”...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Generation X Volunteers Want to Help You, and One Day Themselves, Age at Home

by External Article | Mar 13, 2022 | Generation X, Housing, Long Term Caregiving, Silent generation | 0 comments

Ms. McWhinney-Morse was in her mid-60s when she and a handful of others her age started laying the groundwork for Beacon Hill Village. But younger villagers are surfacing. Jenn Prunty founded My Glacier Village in the Flathead Valley of Montana four years ago, when...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Meet the Underdog of Senior Care

by External Article | Mar 12, 2022 | Finances, Housing, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

Ms. Biteranta now receives all of her health care through PACE, which monitors her, along with 120 other seniors, meticulously. PACE supplies much of her social life, too. “Here, they schedule you for appointments,” said Ms. Biteranta, 74, a retired nurse. “They send...
When a Diagnosis Demands a Long-Term Money Strategy

When a Diagnosis Demands a Long-Term Money Strategy

by External Article | Jan 14, 2022 | Care Work Library, Finances, Generation X, Long Term Caregiving, Planning | 0 comments

A diagnosis may be alarming enough, but equally frightening can be the costs for medical treatments, home renovations and other expenses. Some people with disabling conditions may be forced to retire earlier than they had planned, resulting in a loss of income and...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

How My Father Escaped Jail for Christmas

by External Article | Dec 25, 2021 | Caring for a Parent, Death & Dying | 0 comments

My mother and father never married. This meant, as my mother explained, that I was his legal next of kin, responsible for making his medical decisions. This responsibility, already complex because of his lack of a living will, would prove to be even more fraught...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Friend to healthcare worker

by External Article | Nov 9, 2021 | 24/7 Caregiving, Caring for a Child, For Friends & Family, Millennial Generation, Occasional Caregiving | 0 comments

I am currently helping friends with their severely disabled child. The child needs round-the-clock supervision; this is especially challenging during the night, as someone must monitor the child’s condition at all times. Because of the pandemic and my friends’...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Should I Help My Aging, Ailing Dad Access His Toxic Web Feed?

by External Article | Oct 5, 2021 | Care Work Library, Caring for a Parent, Generation X, Occasional Caregiving | 0 comments

My father and I have not been especially close for all of my adult life because of his inability to communicate or relate to me, to others or to the world in general in a meaningful way. As he has aged, his danger and menace have pretty much disappeared, and he has...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

My Stepdad Has Alzheimer’s. Can My Mom Date Someone Else?

by External Article | Aug 31, 2021 | Caring for a Romantic Partner, For Friends & Family, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

What are your thoughts on the spouse of an early-onset Alzheimer’s patient dating while said patient is still alive? By way of background, my mother was the full-time caregiver of my stepfather until a few months ago, when he was moved to assisted living, and she is...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

Children With Disabilities Need Sex Ed Too

by External Article | Aug 24, 2021 | Caring for a Child, Generation X, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

Currently, only three states in the country explicitly include special ed students in their sex-ed requirements. Six other states provide optional resources adapted for more accessible sex-ed curriculums. Thirty-six states fail to mention students with special needs...
Hospitals and Insurers Didn’t Want You to See These Prices. Here’s Why.

Hospitals and Insurers Didn’t Want You to See These Prices. Here’s Why.

by External Article | Aug 22, 2021 | Care Work Library, Finances | 0 comments

This year, the federal government ordered hospitals to begin publishing a prized secret: a complete list of the prices they negotiate with private insurers. The insurers’ trade association had called the rule unconstitutional and said it would “undermine competitive...
Who Will Take Care of America’s Caregivers?

Who Will Take Care of America’s Caregivers?

by External Article | Aug 12, 2021 | Care Work Library | 0 comments

The nation’s caregiving work force is fraying. Paid providers are overworked and undervalued, often forced to take on multiple jobs or turn to public assistance just to scrape by. Many family caregivers are struggling as well, sacrificing their own health and...
What I’ve Learned Over a Lifetime of Caring for the Dying

What I’ve Learned Over a Lifetime of Caring for the Dying

by External Article | Aug 11, 2021 | Care Work Library, Caring for a Parent, Death & Dying, Planning | 0 comments

Some of the hardest conversations I have in my work involve telling families managing the debilitating chronic illness of a loved one at home that they are essentially on their own. Most do not realize that medical insurance does not pay for long-term home care....
A Marriage Stressed by Obsessions and Compulsions

A Marriage Stressed by Obsessions and Compulsions

by External Article | Aug 6, 2021 | Caregiver Stories, Caring for a Romantic Partner, Millennial Generation, Occasional Caregiving, Sandwich Generation | 0 comments

As soon as we learned a new baby was on the way, Mike’s anxiety became more than an occasional visitor: It officially moved in. We recently had bought a family-size home with a yard in Seattle, and suddenly he saw danger everywhere. When someone you trust starts to...
He Couldn’t Remember That We Broke Up

He Couldn’t Remember That We Broke Up

by External Article | Jul 9, 2021 | Caring for a Friend | 0 comments

To break up with someone is to lose the imagined future you would create together, but you would always share the landscape of your collective past. If Sam could not remember, I would be alone in that landscape. His doctor said we had a window of opportunity to...
Moving Is a Monumental Task for Many Older Americans. These Organizers Can Help.

How Much Must I Give Up for My Schizophrenic Brother?

by External Article | Jul 6, 2021 | Baby Boom Generation, Care Work Library, Caring for a Sibling, Long Term Caregiving | 0 comments

One of my brothers is moderately schizophrenic; he does well on his medication but is increasingly unable to live alone. He and I are not close and are very different people, but when our mother went into a nursing home several years ago, he came to live with my wife...
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