


An Excellent View of Oblivion
In art, we edit the narrative details to maintain credibility. In life, the universe never doubts its own veracity. By the time my mother returned to live in the new house that my father had rented for us after the fire—less than six months after her stroke—there was...
My Mother, Before She Drank
My older sister and I eventually decided to involve our aunt to help figure out a way to save her. We got together, talked about it, and approached my mother – she was barely responsive to us, so we decided we would get help for her regardless. The next day, my mother...
Giving Care to Oneself and Another
There is a song we often sing in my community ‘Be gentle with yourself, my friend, my friend/ Be gentle with yourself my friend’ My father has been an alcoholic absentee parent for most of my life but I have always denied any lack of ‘normalcy’ in my life. I have, in...
Why people say NO to caregiving
I hear a lot of comments about how their other relatives refuse to help with caregiving, so it all falls on them. Sometimes the reasons for this unfortunate family dynamic are not a mystery. Paragraph 1: okParagraph 2: okParagraph 3: waitParagraph 4: OHParagraph 5:...Abandonment
One of the hardest things that I have gone through over the past 6 ½ years caregiving is the feeling of being abandoned.
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