In 2014, I suffered a horrendous roller derby injury hurting my coccyx and dislocating both hips over the span of nine months. I never even made the team; However, I did make numerous doctors appointments, x-rays, physical therapy appointments, and pill after pill after pill. All while trying to get my Masters degree and juggling a new polyamorous relationship. I remember lying on the ground in an open top tent in the middle of Joshua Tree next to my boyfriend and Kitten. They were passionately engaged with each other as I watched them and cried, realizing that I may never know the pleasure of bondage again and that my relationship was over. They immediately stopped and embraced me, as I sobbed silently. They continued and I eventually moved on.

I began to seek out online forums and learned about a component of BDSM that was and is rarely discussed: bondage and disability.

Due to these forums, I knew there were others like me and that we were all striving for the same thing: sexual agency.

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