My Adult Son Moved In. It’s a Nightmare. Can I Kick Him Out?
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Q: Last December, our 30-something son lost his job and asked if he could move in with us, and how long he could stay. I told him that depended on how good of a roommate he was. The answer? Terrible. He is moody and volatile. I live on edge because I never know when he is going to blow up. He kicked a hole in a solid wood door. He has called me many derogatory names, told me I was ugly and stupid. If I don’t remember something, he accuses me of lying. I bear the brunt of our son’s behavior because my husband is mostly in bed. When my son is in a good mood, he is OK, but I never know what to expect.

We strongly suspect he has mental-health issues, but he considers his problems external and won’t see a therapist — that it’s all mumbo jumbo. Given his mental state, is it unethical to evict him? I feel like I’m in an abusive relationship and desperately want him out.

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