My 70-Year-Old Mother Spends Too Much on Porn. What Should I Say?
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My mother, who is in her early 70s and was widowed about a year ago, has been struggling to adjust to life without her husband. As her only child, I have also been struggling to find ways to be helpful. Finances have been a particular challenge for her; one concern is the cost of her cable and streaming subscriptions.

Recently, she has added subscriptions for four separate premium pornography channels, adding $160 per month to her already exorbitant cable bill. Although my mother is an avid internet user, she evidently doesn’t understand that there’s ample free pornography available online.

Should I discuss this issue with her? I’m aghast at the amount of money she’s spending unnecessarily on porn, but I’m incredibly uncomfortable with the prospect of having a conversation about it. — Name Withheld

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