Mum’s behaviour has always hurt. Now dementia is making it worse
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I’m looking after my 90-year old mum who has some dementia. My problem is her nasty attitude.

I’m single and have to work full-time, but I visit mum twice a week and call her a couple of times nearly every day. I try taking her out to new places and for dinner, but she makes it quite clear she’s not interested. And if I buy her new clothes she ceremoniously bins them.

Today she accused me of shutting down her heating deliberately so she cannot have it on. 

I’ve tried organising her finances by setting up direct debits, but she thinks I’m trying to steal from her. 

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