More to dying than meets the eye

Those who work with the dying are familiar with patients seeing long deceased loved ones, angelic beings, even hearing music and comforting voices as the patient nears death. Deathbed phenomena have been documented in the days, weeks, and months before death since the 1500s. Often confused with hallucinations, deathbed phenomena can bring comfort to patients and caregivers if those involved know what they are experiencing. This talk will explain deathbed phenomena and present on-going research about the topic. Martha Atkins scares accounts from the dying and bedside witnesses.

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  1. I witnessed my mother doing the same thing this ladies mom did 4 days before she went home to be with the Lord. My mom had Alzheimer’s Disease and didn’t know anyone until she saw my daddy’s eyes and called him by name. (He was already in heaven), and with her eyes closed and no movement for days…she reached her hand up to the wall where the ceiling met and said, “I see Him, I see Him”. I said, “Who do you see ma, Jesus?” She said, “Yes.” Four days later when Mom went home to be with Lord…I didn’t cry. I was so happy for her that she was with our Lord and dad and ALL her loved ones who had went on before her. I love this speaker.

  2. A couple days before my husband passed, he was constantly reaching for something that we couldn’t see. I suspected he was seeing something or someone we couldn’t see. I wasn’t with him at the exact time of death, but only a short time later, he had a look of what I can only describe as peace on his face.

  3. My dad also kept looking up at the ceiling asking me who all those people were. I told him they were family members waiting for him. He seemed to be OK with that.

  4. Mum’s eyes gravitated to a certain spot near a photo of my brother who died aged 8 in 1960. I am sure there’s something in this

  5. I have been witness to many deaths, and would like to add and share an experience that may help loved ones who are not there for the passing ~ my girlfriend and I had a pact that if she needed me she would call and I would be there for her. I do believe that when I visited her, it was because I needed her as much as she needed the comfort. One evening I received the call ~ please come. When I got there, she asked me to get a pen and paper and help her write again as she was so weak that she feared she would not be able to complete her task, so we started on Sunday to practice. By Wed. she asked me to get specific cards, so she could write her goodbyes, so I did. At that time, she looked better, so I discussed going home, and returning when she needed me again ~ her reply ” no, I am going to die on the weekend so you don’t miss work”. So I stayed. We set up a waxing, so she would look great, a mani and pedi, so she would look groomed, and then she then instructed me to go to her home, and bring specific items she wanted to give to her loved ones, so I did. Then, on Friday, she said ~ “I am done”. “please write your phone number in the book, so my mother can call you ~ I said that the number was there,and she said ~ ” no, I need it large so Mom can see it and call you”, so I did. About this time, a nurse came to me and said, “Zubi is asking for her religious tapes, she is weary and would like to rest, maybe you can wrap it up early this evening”, so I did. I received the call in the early morning hours and arrived too late to say my goodbyes, and the nurse who had encouraged me to leave the evening before was there to greet me. She waited because she knew how upset I would be, given he time I missed the night before and here is what she said, that comforted me then, and does to this day when a loved one passes ~ ” dear, some people are chosen for the passing, and some people are chosen for the living ~ you were here to comfort her in her living days, and her mother was chosen to be there for her passing”. That has stayed with me for over 20 years ~ this is my gift of sharing today…. and by the way, she died on the Saturday, early, as she had planned….

  6. My mother, who is 82, emphatically says that when she was two and seriously sick in the hospital, she was visited by an angel with a little baby on its shoulder.

  7. The night before my father passed. He had stopped talking. I was sleeping with him at his side in the hospital. He was mumbling and kept starring straight to the wall and pointing to it out to me as if to tell me there was something there. He was doing it the whole night.I believe he was communicating to an angel. God Bless Him Always! I miss him! 🙁

    • Exactly the same thing happened to me with my dad, August 17/16… Wish I would’ve seen this video a year ago…❤️

  8. Not long before my dad died, he told me an angel with children came and spoke to him a couple of times. He said he wasn’t scared, that she was comforting to him. He loved children, worked with them all his life.

  9. I provided hospice for my mother, who had lung cancer. she had gotten so she didn’t even want out of bed, had stop eating and drinking. I knew she was near to passing. One day she started calling after her husband who had passed a couple of years before. I went into her room and there she was reaching up calling for her husband and she wriggled her hand like she wanted him to take her hand. I spoke to her to try and calm her down but she didn’t hear me. after awhile she stopped calling for him. two days later she passed. I have always felt he was watching over her and was waiting for her to pass so he could take her where she needed to be. My grandmother was in the hospital with cancer and told my uncle she would not go until she saw me. She hung on for 4 days before I got there. She talked very plainly to me. she told me how much she loved me and my father who passed before. we must have talked for an hour and she told me she was tired my dad was waiting for her. we hug and kissed and I told her that I loved her and goodbye. She could be with my grandfather and my dad. She told me johnny( my dad) is here waiting for me. So I think of death differently since these things have happened to me. These both were reunions of loved ones.

  10. I’ve been a hospice nurse for many years, thus have been present at many deaths. My estimation is that at least 50% of the time people will reach up and attempt to “pluck” something from the air as they’re nearing the end of life on this earth. I have had three people who were communicating nearly up to their last breath and demonstrating that behavior. When I asked the first gentleman what he was reaching for, he replied, “I’m trying to catch the angels.” The second time, my patient had a trach and couldn’t speak, but since he was making the exact same hand movements, I asked if he was trying to catch the angels, and he nodded affirmatively. My third gentleman when asked for what he was reaching, said, in the exact same tone as the first, “I’m trying to catch the angels.” I share this story with my hospice families, which seems to bring great comfort to them, especially if their loved one then exhibits that behavior later. Also, when I share this, there is usually at least one person who says excitedly, “That’s what (fill in the blank) did before he/she died!” I tell them that this is how I know no one dies alone or goes to heaven (or wherever) without someone taking their hand and leading them. I do this because, as you probably know, frequently people will pass when their loved one who’s been holding vigil at the bedside leaves for a bit, and then they carry terrible guilt because they had promised that they wouldn’t let that person die alone. No one dies alone! Please feel free to share this anecdote if you feel it may help someone.

  11. I have been blessed to be in the death business for 20+ years, 14 in a mortuary hearing these kind of stories, and most recently as a hospital chaplain having responded to a few thousand deaths and experienced many stories and signs, I also have had the honor to help hospice patients plan their death experience and ease their fears of dying, I love talking about death and do not see it as a sad thing but as something to embrace


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