ivan is a caregiver to his wife who has ms

Ivan opens up about his 20-plus year journey as the primary caregiver for his wife following her Multiple Sclerosis diagnosis. On top of his newfound caregiving duties, he delves into the difficulty of facing and channeling his anger, confronting his own notions of what it means to be a man, and the importance of reaching out and building a community of caregivers.

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This is part of Caring Across Generations #WeKnowYouCare campaign. Inspired by the new Ruth Bader Ginsburg biopic, On the Basis of Sex, which shows how traditional norms around gender and caregiving hurt everyone, #WeKnowYouCare highlights the stories of male caregivers.

Written by Michelle Daly

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