Is this what acceptance feels like?

This morning I was drinking my coffee and I realized I felt…normal.

It’s been weeks since I’ve broken down sobbing. Since some little thing reminded me of him and broke me inside. Since I felt the darkness of grief so deeply that I couldn’t breathe. I cry, sure, but not the guttural type of crying. Not the kind that brings me to my knees.

I don’t imagine I’ll ever move on. There’s no moving on from grief. Everyone tells me those stages are nonsense. But maybe I’m in a place where I have accepted it. I can make it a whole day without bouncing rapid fire from one emotion to the next. I don’t sob over the washing machine because it’s just my clothes in the laundry.

Now something can remind me of him and I can smile at the memory. It’s beginning to feel like I was blessed to have him, rather than robbed to have him taken away.

L. Booth

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  1. It took soooo long, especially for you Little Brother. Always missing you, gone tooo soon!
    Mark Scherzingerq

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  2. It took soooo long, especially for you Little Brother. Always missing you, gone tooo soon!
    Mark Scherzingerq

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  3. Our adored Mum has been gone almost three years and it’s only now I can speak of her without crying..It’s a bittersweet journey fir everyone who has been Blessed to have had a great love,being your parents,your partner and the hardest ,your child.Grief just melts into your heart and you live that tad differently now.❤️

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  4. Our adored Mum has been gone almost three years and it’s only now I can speak of her without crying..It’s a bittersweet journey fir everyone who has been Blessed to have had a great love,being your parents,your partner and the hardest ,your child.Grief just melts into your heart and you live that tad differently now.❤️

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  5. I’m still in the early stage of my grief my husband of 32.5yrs passed 12/23/17

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    • It is so hard to even understand why. But you have to lean on your faith and family to get through. I’m still having trouble being alone since my husband died in 10/28/17 .

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  6. I’m still in the early stage of my grief my husband of 32.5yrs passed 12/23/17

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    • It is so hard to even understand why. But you have to lean on your faith and family to get through. I’m still having trouble being alone since my husband died in 10/28/17 .

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  7. I love this❤️ I was just thinking about the acceptance phase this weekend. I will always love him and miss him. This totally sums up my feelings.
    “Now something can remind me of him and I can smile at the memory. It’s beginning to feel like I was blessed to have him, rather than robbed to have him taken away.”

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  8. I love this❤️ I was just thinking about the acceptance phase this weekend. I will always love him and miss him. This totally sums up my feelings.
    “Now something can remind me of him and I can smile at the memory. It’s beginning to feel like I was blessed to have him, rather than robbed to have him taken away.”

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  9. It does.
    But it’s a daily struggle to not let that sadness overcome you

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  10. It does.
    But it’s a daily struggle to not let that sadness overcome you

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    • You said it perfectly it is a struggle everyday and I miss my husband

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