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Mom was diagnosed with FTD dementia 6 months earlier and my siblings and I thought it’d be best for me to end my 10-year hiatus in San Diego and move in with her until we could figure out what to do.

Within a couple months I was able to land my dream job – Senior Associate at an International Executive Search firm in Philadelphia. Working for the number one company in my industry was a big coup for me as I was used to working for smaller firms in San Diego. I felt like I had hit the Trifecta – I was able to be present and loving for my Mom, I was dating a pretty fabulous guy and I landed a sweet gig.

By the time summer came around, my career was in full swing, Liam and I were planning on moving in together, and it was time to move Mom into an Assisted Living facility.

Mom’s condition rapidly declined and by early spring, she had a physical and mental setback that forced her into the realm of not being able to speak. We thought she had had a stroke, but her disease was just quickly progressing.

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