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I had been physically dependent on my mother for even the most basic things for my entire life; she had to hand off that responsibility to someone new, and she was terrified.

Over time, my mom had become increasingly unable to do these transfers by herself, so she and my aunt had worked for over a year to get me enrolled in a program at the University of Houston that provided attendant care on a full-time basis. It allowed me to live in a dorm room by myself and go to class or anywhere else independently, all the while knowing that attendants were back at my dorm complex — on call 24/7 — to meet the needs of me and a few dozen others. This was the independence and opportunity that my family wanted me to have.

Saying [moving in with my boyfriend] was stressful would be a gross understatement. Think about all the points of conflict any couple has to deal with when they first move in together[.]

Now, add the fact that I’m extremely limited in how much I can contribute to all the household chores and that he has to physically care for me virtually all day, every day.

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