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As a psychologist, I often encourage people to notice what attitudes and expectations they bring to their experiences to ensure that they’re making the most of their days. I’ve noticed, however, that this encouragement can be taken too far.

We can come to believe that because our thoughts and feelings affect our experience, we should be able to cope with difficulty and hardship in an unshakable, superhero sort of way.

Instead, even in our best attempts to over-ride our circumstances, they still have a very real impact on our quality of living.

I noticed this in a somewhat silly way last week as I traveled back from Disney World to a nearby city. At Disney, the environment was clean and bright and pleasant (of course it helps when people are being paid to create such a magical ambience!). In contrast, the city I was visiting the next day felt much heavier with its swarm of impatient, honking drivers. I couldn’t help but notice the impact on my mood.

When we’re feeling overwhelmed as caregivers, sometimes the best gift we can offer ourselves is to have compassion for the difficulties we’re experiencing, and to realize that it’s natural to feel the effects of our life circumstances.

It’s not illogical or crazy to be brought down by what surrounds us and, the truth is, if we were graced with the sort of magical delight held in a metaphoric Disney World, things would be easier and more enjoyable.

It’s helpful of be honest with ourselves and let go of expectations that we should feel a certain way. As opposed to trying to force a sunny outlook, I find that genuine lightness is more likely to arrive when we allow ourselves to simply feel all of what we feel.

 

Karen Horneffer-Ginter, Ph.D. is the author of “Full Cup, Thirsty Spirit,” newly released from Hay House and available for purchase at bookstores, including Amazon.

Karen Horneffer-Ginter has been practicing psychology and teaching yoga and contemplative practices for over 16 years. She has also taught graduate students and health care professionals, along with directing a university-based holistic health care program, and co-founding the Center for Psychotherapy and Wellness in Kalamazoo, Michigan. The aim of Karen's work is to reconnect people with the wisdom of their inner-life by reclaiming what gets lost amidst the busyness of day-to-day life: qualities such as stillness, self-care, creativity, joy, humor, gratitude, and compassion. Her intention is to support people in finding a sense of balance and sacredness in their lives.

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  1. GOOD READ. IT IS HARD TO ALWAYS ACT LIKE THINGS ARE GREAT WHEN THEY JUST ARE NOT!

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  2. Nice to know I don’t have to be so hard on myself if I can’t be Miss Polly Sunshine spreading happy thoughts when I have a raging sinus infection and the meds are making me sick making me cranky and overwhelmed with the needs of my hubby 8 weeks post broken hip surgery. Thank God for support from family, church, neighbors and home health. It could be worse!!

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  3. Very light and easy. Not the best example at all about being a carer. Glad I’ve read other articles from your site.

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  4. Scary to really go where you are feeling. Feeling it all is overwhelming!!! Tough couple of days in a row – just trying to get through each day.

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  5. That was beautiful, and good to read after a difficult day. Thanks for sharing.

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