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a daughters love for her father

This is so true… I can’t even put into words the feelings and thoughts that flooded through when I read this.

For those of you who don’t know, I spend an average of 60+ hours per week caring for my father and his wife. It has truly changed me.

I’ve learned what it means to be selfless and sacrificing, and also the guilt of learning how selfish I can sometimes be. Caring for them has become my entire life, everything revolves around them, then my family, then every once in a blue moon — there is a brief moment for myself.

I have seen life come full circle. And as hard as it is, (one of the hardest “jobs” I’ve ever had or will ever have again), I’m better for having experienced it…the good and the bad. I’m grateful that God placed me in a position to show His love and care for those that can’t care for themselves.

There is a part of me that struggles daily to cope with the emotional, physical, and mental toll it takes, but I have been entrusted with a great responsibility — one that is often unnoticed by others, harder than anyone will ever know, but worth every sacrifice to help someone who helped me for so long… Someone who still helps me, someone I wouldn’t trade for the world, someone I’ve been privileged enough to return the favor and care for, and I treasure the time spent together… Even on the rough days… because I know one day he’ll be gone, and I’d give anything to have another “rough day” with him.

I love my mom and dad (& their spouses) both very dearly! (This one is for you though, Daddy) – Katy Wright Nordlöf

Originally posted on Facebook

Written by Judith Henry
When Judith’s parents became ill in 2007, even her reputation as a pragmatist, planner, and dutiful daughter (her father’s term) couldn’t prepare her for what lay ahead – a long list of concerns that included navigating an unfamiliar healthcare system, addressing financial and legal issues, dealing with stress, unexpected family dynamics, and ultimately making hospice arrangements. That experience led her to write, The Dutiful Daughter’s Guide to Caregiving, part intimate recollection and part down-to-earth advice. Loaded with humor and not a few tears, it's geared towards adult children who find themselves taking on more responsibility for an aging parent’s well-being. Judith also speaks on a variety of topics, including caring for older adults; dealing with grief and loss; the benefits of expressive writing for caregivers. Her presentations and workshops are appropriate for a wide range of businesses and organizations including civic associations, writer’s groups, women’s centers, health maintenance and healthcare facilities. Described as a warm and engaging speaker, Judith excels at connecting with an audience through humor, personal knowledge and experience. She can be reached through www.JudithDHenry.com

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