On feeling guilty for not being able to do the impossible:

On one hand it seems like we did all we could but on the other hand, it feels like giving up. I remember feeling like we worked hard, like we gave it a valiant effort. But we didn’t have what we needed so we just stopped.”

“Without any intervention, would he have died at birth?”

“Yes.”

“Those other babies, were they following the natural course of their illness?”

“Yes.”

“It’s not the same, you know that, right?”

I stare absently out the window. I try to sort out the guilt I’ve taken on. “I don’t know. We stopped care. We left him. I’m part of that ‘We.’”

Read more in the University of Richmond Magazine.

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  1. Thank you for sharing Diane’s article which, in addition to being published the University of Richmond Magazine, is also featured in Bodies of Truth: Personal Narratives on Illness, Disability, and Medicine (University of Nebraska Press 2019). Readers interested in Diane’s writing can find more at https://www.dianekraynak.com/

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