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I am in my early 50s, and almost a decade ago my husband suffered a traumatic brain hemorrhage, which left him with the mental capacity of a perpetual 11-year-old. I am the center of his universe, and not in a good way. I work part time, and when I go out he’s afraid I’m leaving him.

We haven’t had a husband-and-wife relationship since his injury. We are more like mother and child. I miss kissing, touching, and sex.

Counseling wasn’t helpful; I was advised to get out more. My children are in their mid-20s, and if I left my husband he would become their problem, which isn’t fair.

Is it wrong for me to find a man for adult companionship and sex? I don’t think I can do this for another 20-plus years.

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