Communication, Humor, and Experimentation: 10 Tips for Disabled Sex
Two disabled Black women (one wearing compression gloves, and the other in a power wheelchair) on a date. Both are illuminated by natural light coming through a window while they hold coffee mugs, sit, and chat.

I was a pretty typical teenager when it came to sex. I wanted it and wanted to know more about it. When the classes I took in school failed to tell me how sex happens for folks with disabilities, I turned to the resource kids in the ’90s turned to for everything: Google.

The results were terrifying. Most sites told me that good sex probably wasn’t possible and others were dehumanizing. It was at that moment I realized I’d have to figure it out for myself. Below are ten things I’ve learned that I wish someone could have told me back then.

Read more on The Body is Not an Apology.

Featured Image: Disabled And Here / Chona Kasinger.

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