a circle of supportive friends and family

Caregivers need to find ways to manage their stress this holiday season and you, as family and friends of a caregiver, can use holiday gatherings to help them do this. But first you need to open the door to a conversation with the caregiver about how they are doing. Here are tips for them to get this conversation going and allowing the love and support to flow.

Here’s the fifth of 6 tips: letting your loved one know that you’re there to support them and help them avoid burning out.

5) Explore ways to share the care and be part of the caregiver’s circle of support.

holidaytipsNobody can do it alone. That’s a well established understanding in the world of caregiving.

Doing it alone is a surefire way towards exhaustion and, ultimately, burn out.

Exhaustion and social isolation are bad for our health.

Believe it or not, the latest research shows that caregiving is good for the caregivers’ health. In fact, caregivers live longer – are 18% more likely to do so (as per a study of caregivers of people who’ve suffered strokes – by Dr. David Roth of Johns Hopkins University).

In order for caregivers to enjoy this longevity benefit of caregiving, they must find ways of preventing exhaustion and social isolation.

You can help them by sharing this tip with them and then offering to explore some ways of enlarging their circle of support. You may need to help them get past beliefs they may have that get in their way of reaching out and accepting love and support. You may also need to help them to clarify what aspects of privacy are important to them and find ways to protect them while opening up to support.

Help them to open up the circle and let the love flow.

BTW – The health benefits will also flow to those who step forward to provide that support.

Want to know more? Read the rest here.

Written by Yosaif August
I am a steadfast ally of people who want to live their lives with a greater sense of purpose and meaning. Henry David Thoreau said, “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” I help them bring their song forth – so that they lead their lives with purpose, passion and possibilities.

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  1. I have the support of 3 senior citizens. They can’t do any lifting, changing diapers or carrying in the groceries, but they listen when I’m feeling down and offer advice with my emotions. My hats off to senior citizens, they are a truly precious gem to have in life. I also have a friend 7 states away. This precious gem flew out here just to take me shopping, because all the fake friends don’t even consider what it’s like to not have a vehicle, let alone a bed ridden son.

  2. I never had one. Now I am no longer a caregiver in my home. I pray others will come to the aid of all caregivers. They need all sorts of relief.

  3. I’m trying to find ways to control my frustration when my mom asks the same question over and over. I know she can’t help it, but how do I keep from getting frustrated?


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