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Category: Finding Meaning
It’s time to embrace community care & let go of individualistic self-care
Everyone loves self-care these days… including billionaires, wealthy celebrities, corporations,...
We need to address society’s unrealistic view of caregivers
Who cares? When picturing a caregiver, the person who comes to mind is almost invariably female....
A simple loss
It doesn't rhyme with purpose But that's what it is Or inspiration But that, too You've lost it....
When My Wife Developed Alzheimer’s, the Story of Our Marriage Kept Us Connected
In December 2012, at age sixty-one, Judy received a diagnosis of early onset Alzheimer’s. The news...
Photographer aims to capture strength of young caregivers
Growing up with a mother who had schizophrenia, Max Alexander had first-hand experience as a young...
What if There’s No Such Thing as Closure?
[Pauline] Boss, an emeritus professor of family social science — the study of families and close...
Caregivers are Over Your Toxic Positivity
I stopped buying into the veneer of toxic positivity once I became the primary caregiver to my...
Making Self-Care Tactical — Why You Should Focus on Boundaries, Not Just Bubble Baths
Self-care is deeper work — there’s a difference between engaging in self-soothing relief from a...
The right right thing to do
A good deal of moral theory, therefore, tends to assume that there’s a morally right answer about...
The Grief Artist
Someone in my group for hospice workers shares the article on flowers as a grief ritual, and...
On the consolatory pleasure of jigsaws when the world is in bits
When the call came to say my mother had died, I was working on a jigsaw of Joan Miró’s painting...
Moving Forward After Caregiving Ends
In November of 2020, my beloved husband died. His death brought 23 years of caregiving to an end....
What I wish I’d known
My 21-month caregiving ended a couple of months ago when my mother passed away. Since that time, I...
Round and Round the Caregiving Circle
The circle is one of the oldest shapes in human history. Drawing circles must be instinctive...
Humor, Hope and the Caregiving Experience
As a health care provider and a person who has taken care of not one but two partners with cancer...
Jewish Perspectives on End-of-Life Care
While Jewish tradition maintains that human life is of infinite value and that its preservation...
The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at
I picked up Kelly McGonigal's The Upside of Stress assuming I would skim it for a few interesting...
Reframing Guilt as Regret
Let’s talk about guilt. Ever since Adam and Eve ate the proverbial apple men and women have felt...
Life in the fast lane (not)
It’s like being on a motorway, full of all kinds of vehicles, heading to wherever , with some ,...
Honor Thy Father
“I am in a bind. I have a problem and I need your help,” came the voice over the telephone. My...
Helping is Making Me Feel Helpless
Have you ever felt helpless trying to help a loved one? We know the stories: the alcoholic...
My Therapist Says It’s Okay to Stew in Sadness
When I am physically sick, and when I am mentally sick, I push myself to my absolute limit....
Go Ahead and Complain. It Might Be Good for You.
“In short: Yes, it’s good to complain, yes, it’s bad to complain, and yes, there’s a right way to...