I was trying to influence a situation outside my control by staying awake. I could not prevent my...
Category: Caring for a Romantic Partner
A Field Guide to the Abeyance of Loss
Claudia cannot choose the path her life is taking. Neuromyelitis optica directs her, making life...
5 Women On the Realities of Caregiving for a Sick Partner
When someone else gets sick like that—someone you love—it can mean a complete overhaul of what...
Being disabled is my future
People call me codependent. If you combined and then divided me and my partner in half, you might...
Older spouses struggle to care for loved ones with dementia
It's been nearly four years since Russ Kellogg's wife, Frances, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's...
Provincial funding programs should allow immediate family to be paid caregivers
Vancouver resident Evan Brunelle was approved for WorkSafeBC's Self Managed Personal Care (SMPC)...
Frontotemporal dementia: ‘I don’t ever want to be looked at by John as a caregiver, I want him to see me as his partner’
Cindy McCaffery provides support to her husband John who was diagnosed with frontotemporal...
Dinner with Proust: how Alzheimer’s caregivers are pulled into their patients’ worlds
In her mid-70s, Ida began showing signs of Alzheimer’s. Her decline was gradual. She experienced...
“Watching My Beloved Hurt Is Hard”
People are often curious about how Lene and I ended up together. This is doubly true when I tell...
On hope
I knew what was going on the moment I rushed up two flights of stairs and found him. The kind of...
My wife got cancer and I couldn’t fix it. Finally I learned that’s not what’s required
After that night, it was clear that while I was taking care of certain tasks, I had no idea how to...
Walkthrough of UHC’s Claim Reimbursement Form Game
I’ve always loved the puzzle genre of video games. Starting with the Infocomm text adventures of...
The crushing financial penalties for marriage in your later years — courtesy of Uncle Sam
A devastating new critique in the Washington University Law Review has spelled out how federal law...
Seeking Marriage Equality for People With Disabilities
Within weeks of the Tarpy’s date, both knew they had found their forever partner. But three months...
Widow’s Peak
She said she had something to tell me but that she was afraid. I reached for her trembling hand,...
A Brief Guide to Consenting with a Nonverbal Partner
Consent is extremely important and vital to all aspects of dating, relationships, sex and just...
Sex and disability
Scarleteen has a fantastic collection of articles on sex and disability. While I typically only...
How to Talk About Disability With A Disabled Partner When You’re a Nondisabled Person
New relationships - whether romantic, sexual, or both - are almost always exciting, no matter who...
We need to address society’s unrealistic view of caregivers
Who cares? When picturing a caregiver, the person who comes to mind is almost invariably female....
His PTSD, and My Struggle to Live With It
That attack marked the beginning of our struggle to navigate a relationship transformed by trauma....
The Underground Economy of Unpaid Care
At the time, my mom was living in Bellingham, Washington, two years into providing unpaid live-in...
A simple loss
It doesn't rhyme with purpose But that's what it is Or inspiration But that, too You've lost it....
Still Life
The doctor told Ann that John had severely damaged his spinal cord and was paralyzed from his neck...
How to Help Someone With Depression While Being Fair to Yourself
How much of yourself do you have to give to your partner in support, and what is the true cost if...