Tara Driver would love to retire before age 70. But it’s not going to be easy. The 51-year-old’s...
Category: Caring for a Parent
You Shouldn’t Have to Take Care of Your Aging Parents on Your Own
"For most older Americans, care will come from unpaid family members or friends, who contributed...
The Magic of the Granny Flat
Since around 2010, the city has been encouraging the development of such accessory dwelling units,...
For The First Time, Traditional Medicare Will Pay To Support Family Caregivers
"for the first time, Medicare will pay doctors and other providers to deliver critical support to...
My Work as an In-Home Caregiver Shouldn’t Be This Hard
Back in 2006, I was working 80 hours a week in two jobs, and taking home about $60,000 a year. But...
An Excellent View of Oblivion
In art, we edit the narrative details to maintain credibility. In life, the universe never doubts...
A loved one’s dementia will break your heart. Don’t let it wreck your finances
It is among a cluster of studies that point to financial problems as a possible warning sign —...
‘I knew the terror of lost time’: how my father’s dementia echoed my own alcoholism
In our different ways, my father and I were both suffering from diseases of forgetfulness. Though...
My father had dementia and I was his caregiver. Here’s what I wish I had known
In 2007, I was suddenly plunged into the role of caregiver for my then 75-year-old father, who had...
With Flowers
I’ve tried to tell this story before. Let me try again. This time with flowers. My mother died on...
The Agony of Putting Your Life on Hold to Care for Your Parents
Randi Schofield tried her best to not dwell on all the ways her life changed, on the pieces of...
I Took Over My Father’s Finances at 25. The Lessons Were Hard-Won.
Six years ago, I took over my father’s finances. ... I was 25 and had just moved in with my...
How to Embalm Yourself Before You’re Dead
Since Mother’s death, I’ve been mothering Dad the way I’ve always wanted to be mothered. I learned...
How to Deal with Irrational Elderly Parents
Some of the approaches for responding to regular aging parents apply to irrational ones too, while...
The Alzheimer’s Crisis in Indian Country
Alzheimer’s is on the rise across all Americans over 65, with one in nine people in that age...
How to Set Boundaries with a Narcissistic Parent
Adult children of narcissists often find independence by separating out and spending limited time...
How Do You Deal With a Narcissistic Aging Parent?
Caring for a loving and grateful aging parent can be overwhelming at times. So, imagine what it’s...
Can I Refuse to Care for an Elderly Parent?
Caring for our parents as they age seems like the obvious way to repay them. Yet, some people ask:...
The Dangers of Caregiver Martyr Syndrome
Do people act as if you're choosing to do all that you do? And choosing to have no time for...
The Silent Epidemic Affecting Generation Z
as of 2020, more than one in six Americans was actively responsible for the daily needs and...
The Switzerland schedule
“Your mother,” he told us, “has multiple sclerosis.” Whatever that was. I carried on with my day...
As she nursed her mom through cancer and dementia, a tense relationship began to heal
In March 2020, Lori traveled to Florida to help Audrey move into an assisted living facility, a...
How to Rescue a Grieving Friend
Before my father’s decline, he was a preeminent scholar of Black religious history. As brilliant...
On #dementia TikTok, family caregivers find support and bring the disease to light
"My mom was taking care of her mom, who had Alzheimer's, [and] not telling anybody how hard it was...