Caring for my dad full time is tough, but I feel guilty if I don’t: Ask Ellie
daughter caring for her father feels invisible asking for advice

Dear Readers: One of the most difficult relationships that readers write to me about — beyond couples’ crises, disaffected children or in-law wars — is that of being the spouse/lover/or adult child who becomes a loved one’s caregiver.

Here’s how one caregiver described her own situation:

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“I’ve been looking after my dad full-time for two years. I can do it because I’m not currently working. He can reach the phone and contact me so I can go out for a few hours.

“Through government help, a personal support worker (PSW) stays with my dad for 16 hours each month so I can take that one break.

“But there are still so many chores to do that never end and from which I never get a break.

“Nobody (among family, friends, or neighbours) has offered to stay with my dad. I haven’t asked them because they haven’t offered.

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