caregiver overwhelmed by loneliness

Do you have a social network?

Sure, as we get older some friendships naturally fade away as our priorities shift and who we are changes. Caregiving really speeds up that process!

Combating loneliness

Reach out to friends you’ve lost touch with

We have tips for how to find time for friendship in a schedule we know is already packed.

Connect with people in your community

Feel like you don’t have a community? Rick Lauber will help you think of all the people who are there to support you.

Set boundaries

Some of us are hesitant to invite people over for fear that they’ll criticize what we do or take over our homes. By setting boundaries in your home regarding visiting and managing advice you didn’t ask for, you can enjoy the company of others without worrying about what they’ll say.

Start small

Many people are eager to help – or think they are, until you actually ask them! By asking for help in tiny pieces, you can get the help you need without scaring people off. You can even share our resources for friends and family of caregivers to help them get an idea of what to expect and how to help.

Join a support group

Joy found her participation in support groups to be incredibly helpful as she dealt with her father’s dementia.

Connect online

Many of us find it nearly impossible to get places on time or schedule ahead. We never know when there’ll be an emergency, or just a bad day. The community forums and chat on The Caregiver Space are here 24/7, 365 days a year, allowing caregivers from around the world to connect with other people who get it whenever we have time. If you can manage to log on at a specific time, we have moderated chats just about every day.

Write it out

There’s plenty of research out there to back the idea that journaling combats loneliness and depression. Getting it out on paper can also help us from sharing too much or being short tempered with our friends. The Page Listens is our place to share the best journaling techniques and inspiration.

Written by Cori Carl
As Director, Cori is an active member of the community and regularly creates resources for people providing care.

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  1. It’s really lonely

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  2. Me too. But it can be lonely frustrating exhausting and no body rarely understands to emotional weight.

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  3. caregiver to my total care bedridden son (almost 31 yrs old mentally 3-6) it is impossible to do things outside the home when you are the sole caregiver.

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  4. It’s extremely important to maintain your life. Once your loved one is gone, you need to be able to continue on your own path. If you give up your life to focus on caregiving, you will end up extremely lonely and lost. I’ve seen this way too many times. It’s also important to seek the help of a therapist. They can help keep you focused on making healthy lifestyle choices during this process.

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  5. If it wasn’t for the nurse’s aide that came 5 days a week for 2 hours per day, I don’t know what I would have done. Friends and family work and have their own issues, and some lived too far. The lonely life of an alzheimers caregiver.

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  6. I am two years into caring for my Dad with Alzheimer’s

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    • .It can be lonely but I have fantastic support from family and friends x

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  7. Yes, it is generally a very lonely road. Unless you have been there you cannot imagine….

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  8. I’m a caregiver to my 28 yrold daughter..My husband passed..& yes its Lonely…

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  9. I think many lean on the social media. Yet it Still just isn’t the same. Unless someone has lived it they don’t get it!

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  10. Mom lived with me for 20 years. 3 years in a hospital bed.
    3 weeks ago I put her into a nursing home.
    I was starting to lose it and feel ill
    I now can be the daughter. They’re doing a fantastic job
    I am starting to feel better.
    Blessings to all Caregivers
    I knew my limits.
    Mom. 96
    Me. 61

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  11. Been caregiver for almost 12yrs and still counting ☺

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  12. I have given up trying to find someone special to share my life. I find most girls don’t want to be with a guy who cares for their mom full-time.

    Being lonely is part of the caregiving experience for me

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    • that’s ok…most guys don’t want to be with someone who cares for an adult disabled daughter…their loss

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    • Jennifer Ketchum it’s sucks for both women and men

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  13. Been careing for husband 10 yrs 247, 365 he has short term memory loss, now i have depression and anxiety

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  14. I’ve been at it for about 5 years and I have no freaking clue how people who’ve been doing it for 10+ years stay sane……

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    • I’m going into year 2 and wondering the same

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      • I am new to this but I have been taking care of my wife for 3 years. It is very difficult and lonely

    • I could lie to you and tell you it gets easier, but I won’t. Hang in there and if you ever need to vent PM me.

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  15. IT IS LONELY, FAITH KEEPS ME GOING BUT IT IS HARD.

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  16. I’m a newbie and feel pretty overwhelmed at this point..

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    • I felt that way in the beginning. Now i have to make time for myself, even if its just an hour or two.

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    • My mom just went to a nursing home last week. Its just alot.
      I know others have it far worse and it will calm down but I do feel very alone at times . I have a brother and sister that are not much help. Thanks!

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  17. Be thankful you get ANY help and not doing it alone..

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    • Not thankful here- too hungry from eating once a day… folks know the struggle and just look away or don’t care…

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    • Thats terrible, sorry to hear that. Keep a stiff upper lip Rebecca!

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    • Michael Popper Hanging on with all that I have

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  18. It wouldn’t be if family participated more instead of making excuses

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  19. Share with others: caregiversinfaith.com, alzheimers2013jv.com, on FB at Caregivers In Faith. And write, write, write!

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