A couple of years ago Williams started the r/caregivers subreddit. It’s a place where he and fellow caregivers can talk about the stresses, questions, and sadnesses that come with supporting an incapacitated loved one. The community is small but dedicated, and it provides an empathy that the rest of the world can’t muster.

Williams told me that his wife doesn’t know about the caregiving subreddit, which allows him to be as honest as he needs to be. “Venting is important,” he said. “There’s so much frustration, you want to be mad at the disease, but you can’t help but take it out on the person. If you can it’s good to bide your time until you’re in front of a keyboard so you can do your screaming there.”

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