Caregiver anger and resentment are normal

Is it okay to feel angry? Is it okay to occasionally hate the person I’m caring for? What did I do to deserve this? How do I process these feelings? What do I do with them, and how do I move beyond this hell? You ask yourself these question and then feel guilty and ashamed because we are conditioned by our upbringing and social expectations to match what we show, speak and feel. You then try to sugar-coat the dark thoughts and inspire yourself with socially expected ideals of caring, but it doesn’t always work, and you end up feeling worse in every sense, not just angry. You feel like a terrible human being.

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