an open expanse of blue sky

It’s funny– as I made our latest CareCard (see below), I found myself taking deeper breaths, closing my eyes and feeling my lungs swell. Maybe it’s the reminder that blue skies and white clouds exist (how often I forget to look up), maybe it’s the fullness of the font, or perhaps it’s just that reading a simple direction in how to breathe actually directs my breathing.

Forgetting to breathe is easier than we think. As humans, our first reaction to pain is to hold our breath. When we are humiliated, angry, stressed, we keep the breath in. When life becomes dizzying and overwhelming, take a deep, full breath. Let it out freely. Feel the oxygen rushing to your head, clearing away all of the negative thoughts. Take another. Take another. As many as you need until your head feels a little clearer and your muscles have eased some.

Tell me, is there anything better than breathing in salty beach air on a summer evening? Or the first, sweet inhalation of spring? Or gulping down winter’s crisp breath? Our bodies are waiting to relive of those memorable breaths, all we have to do is pause, inhale, and experience ourselves letting go.

Use the affirmation below to remind yourself to breathe in those stressful moments.

Written by Alexandra Axel
Alexandra Axel was the first founding staff member at The Caregiver Space. As a New York native, Allie grew up people-watching and story-collecting, eventually pursuing her undergraduate degree from The College of New Jersey in sociology and creative writing. At The Caregiver Space, she worked with social media, graphic design, blogging, and program development to brand and grow an online community composed of, and focused on, caregivers. From the seedlings of an idea to the thriving community that it is today, Allie was there from the beginning to support the evolution of The Caregiver Space. Allie enjoys writing poetry and short fiction, devouring books, biking, crafting, urban agriculture and imperfectly cooking. She currently resides in Brooklyn with her pup, Hen.

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