Radiolab talks to Janet and Kevin about their relationship. She was hesitant about getting romantically involved with him at first, because of his epilepsy. They’d met because of it, when she started giving him rides to their office after he had to stop driving. His first brain surgery was relatively easy, so they thought the second would be, too. But they were wrong.

We’ve all felt it, that irresistible urge to point the finger. But new technologies are complicating age-old moral conundrums about accountability. This hour, we ask what blame does for us — why do we need it, when isn’t it enough, and what happens when we try to push past it with forgiveness and mercy?

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