Cori Carl

As Director, Cori is an active member of the community and regularly creates resources for people providing care.
Aiming to do less in 2018

Aiming to do less in 2018

During my time with The Caregiver Space, I've continually tried to go more with less. When I couldn't keep up with the sheer number of hours I was putting in, we brought in more volunteers, more interns, more part-time staff. While we managed to do way more stuff with...

My loved one isn’t a burden

My loved one isn’t a burden

The most common term for discussing the difficulties that come with supporting a loved one through a health crisis, long-term illness, or disability is "caregiver burden." While it's a succinct way to sum up the challenges of caregiving, of which there are many, it...

What does caregiving feel like?

What does caregiving feel like?

When people talk about overcoming disease or disability to live an incredible life, so often the caregivers are left out of the story. Many caregivers don't identify as caregivers -- we're so absorbed in the needs of whoever we're caring for, we forget what it's like...

How did we become family caregivers?

How did we become family caregivers?

A few weeks ago we were talking about how we became caregivers on the Facebook page. I was surprised by how many professional caregivers said they didn't have a choice in the matter, it just happened. I was also surprised by how many parents and spouses said they...

Is becoming a caregiver a choice?

Is becoming a caregiver a choice?

Becoming a caregiver just happened I was 23, had a five year old and a 2 month old. My mother was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer, and her "husband" decided he didn't want to clean up crap, and I was already an "expert". Sadly, she passed away 2 months later, and...

Confessions of a backseat caregiver

Confessions of a backseat caregiver

Like so many children, I'm simultaneously exactly like and nothing like my father. One of the things that's very different about us is that he's very much a caricature of the absent minded professor while I have a life that's planned weeks in advance in a color-coded...

When caregiving begins

When caregiving begins

Caregivers come from all ages and walks of life. So many of our community members have been part-time, full-time, long-distance, and professional caregivers over the years. But as Cathy put it so perfectly: It isn't a competition regarding when we started caregiving,...

Sometimes people don’t know what to say

Sometimes people don’t know what to say

Sometimes people don't know the right thing to say. In fact, they put their foot in their mouths pretty often. But sometimes they say just the right thing and it makes a world of difference. I asked our community: Was there a time someone said the wrong thing? What do...

Why does mom have bruises?

Why does mom have bruises?

Having a parent or grandparent in a nursing home can be incredibly difficult, especially when so many of us have promised we'd keep them at home forever. So often residential care hardly feels like it reduces the amount of time we spend caregiving, with all the...

Caregiver frustration

Caregiver frustration

No matter how rewarding caregiving can be or how much we love the person we're caring for, caregiving is frustrating. Frustration just comes with the package. We're human and caregiving inevitably involves situations and tasks that are inherently frustrating. So many...

Getting help: Is it really possible?

Getting help: Is it really possible?

So many caregiving guides make it sound like there's plenty of help to be had, if only caregivers would ask. We know that's not quite how it works. Yes, some caregivers don't ask for help and your chances of success improve if you ask the right way, but it's a fact...

About to burn out? Try this.

About to burn out? Try this.

When we first become caregivers or when there's a new emergency, we go into super hero mode. You know what I mean: you do it all, without stopping, at the same time. Nothing can stop you, until you can't keep it up. It's unsustainable. You can only suck it up and...

One question that changes everything

One question that changes everything

The other day I was in an ER far from home. The woman in charge of triage was refusing to move forward with triage because we didn't have insurance they'd accept. The fact that we had insurance and had even gotten pre-approval to go to the ER wasn't enough -- she...

Too many notifications?

Too many notifications?

Our private Facebook groups are pretty active, so you might find they take over your Facebook news feed. Don't worry, there's an easy solution. Find a post from the group that's taking over your news feed and click on the little triangle in the upper right corner to...

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