make space for you in your life even as a caregiver


When I was first studying approaches to health and healing across different cultures, I realized how much focus is given to “adding” things in my corner of the world.

When we Westerners consider our physical and emotional health, our thoughts often go to adding in a new exercise, taking a new supplement or medication, or signing up for a class. While these actions can be valuable, sometimes what we most need is the opposite of ingesting something or doing more.

Instead, we need the balance that comes from some unscheduled time, a break from our routine, or the release of some difficult feelings we’ve been holding onto. Even as we think about our prayers or intentions for the day, it can be helpful to begin by consciously exhaling several times and letting go of any emotional or mental debris we may be carrying.

Stop doing more and do less.

First, release what is no longer needed. Then begin moving into your day. The reminder to release, do less, and create space is especially relevant to caregivers.

When our lives are full with day-to-day responsibilities and the ongoing demands of caregiving, emptying out—in one or many forms—is often just what we need.

Karen Horneffer-Ginter, Ph.D. is the author of Full Cup, Thirsty Spirit.

Karen Horneffer-Ginter has been practicing psychology and teaching yoga and contemplative practices for over 16 years. She has also taught graduate students and health care professionals, along with directing a university-based holistic health care program, and co-founding the Center for Psychotherapy and Wellness in Kalamazoo, Michigan. The aim of Karen's work is to reconnect people with the wisdom of their inner-life by reclaiming what gets lost amidst the busyness of day-to-day life: qualities such as stillness, self-care, creativity, joy, humor, gratitude, and compassion. Her intention is to support people in finding a sense of balance and sacredness in their lives.

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