Facing my wife’s dementia: Should I fly off to see our grandkids without her?

A loved one’s dementia will break your heart. Don’t let it wreck your finances

It is among a cluster of studies that point to financial problems as a possible warning sign — rather than just the fallout — of cognitive decline. Carole Shepard, a self-employed geriatric care manager in suburban Pittsburgh, says it’s best to start planning...
Frontotemporal dementia: ‘I don’t ever want to be looked at by John as a caregiver, I want him to see me as his partner’

Frontotemporal dementia: ‘I don’t ever want to be looked at by John as a caregiver, I want him to see me as his partner’

Cindy McCaffery provides support to her husband John who was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia more than a decade ago, at age 48. Over the years, she has come to understand the importance of active living, and its apparent role in slowing down brain disease...
As she nursed her mom through cancer and dementia, a tense relationship began to heal

As she nursed her mom through cancer and dementia, a tense relationship began to heal

In March 2020, Lori traveled to Florida to help Audrey move into an assisted living facility, a plan that was immediately upended with the arrival of nationwide lockdowns. In the next three months, Lori lived with Audrey in her apartment, sleeping in the same bed with...
Death by Dementia

Death by Dementia

Some deaths Are like the slamming of a door. Sudden. Complete. You are either On one side of the door, Or the other, With no contact between. But dementia isn’t like that. It is simultaneously more gentle, And more cruel. Not one, complete, total, goodbye. Instead...
The Comforting Fictions of Dementia Care

The Comforting Fictions of Dementia Care

When do we owe people the full truth about their lives? What happens when people cannot understand the truth or cannot accept the truth, so insisting on it only causes them repeated pain? The streetscape at the Lantern, the home at Chagrin Valley, is particularly...
Unlocked And Loaded: Families Confront Dementia And Guns

Unlocked And Loaded: Families Confront Dementia And Guns

With a bullet in her gut, her voice choked with pain, Dee Hill pleaded with the 911 dispatcher for help. “My husband accidentally shot me,” Hill, 75, of The Dalles, Ore., groaned on the May 16, 2015, call. “In the stomach, and he can’t talk, please …” Less than four...
Dementia Caregiver’s Playbook

Dementia Caregiver’s Playbook

Denial: In the beginning, you start to notice things being a little off. This is a difficult stage because only someone close to the individual will pick on these oddities. Sometimes, this goes on for quite some time before someone other than you can start to...