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To Survive My Daughter’s Cancer Treatment, I Left Her Behind and Flew to Ireland

To Survive My Daughter’s Cancer Treatment, I Left Her Behind and Flew to Ireland

In the early days of my daughter’s leukemia diagnosis, I felt in control. I was the single mom of two who always found a way to make anything work. No car in the suburbs, enormous loans for graduate school, years spent living on SNAP and public assistance—I worked it...

Why am I procrastinating?

Why am I procrastinating?

It's not because you're lazy. It's not because you're flawed. It's not because you're unable to do it. You're procrastinating because the task is bringing up uncomfortable emotions that you really, really want to avoid. Read more on The New Happy.

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Become a paid family caregiver in Canada

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Common terms for caregiving

The actions: caretaking, care work, assisting, ADL support, direct care, care management, care coordination, care navigation

The person providing support: carer, care partner, aide, personal care assistant, home health aide (HHA), care coordinator, care navigator, case manager, care custodian, foster parent, foster caregiver, guardian, one-to-one, homemaker, live-in, care manager, nurse aide, care planner, private duty nurse, nanny to a disabled child, elder nanny, care companion, special needs parent, disability mom, disability dad, domestic helper, domestic, housekeeper, mother’s helper, family caregiver, paid caregiver, designated caregiver, partner in care

The people providing support: care team, web of care, care web, concierge, care train

The person receiving support: care recipient, caree, loved one (LO), ill spouse (IS), ward, dependent, elder, homebound, patient, client

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It’s easy to get the impression that no one talks about caregiving, especially if you aren’t a “typical” caregiver.

The thing is, everyone is talking about caregiving. They just don’t use the term “caregiving.” They talk about cancer, dementia, MS, cerebral palsy, and the frailty that sometimes accompanies aging.

They talk about being overwhelmed, stressed out, burnt out, and pulled in a dozen directions at once.

Stereotypes around who provides care leaves young people, queer people, men and masculine people, polyamorous and non-traditional families, and many others feeling like they don’t count as caregivers and don’t qualify for support. People who provide care during flares or as respite, who help a primary caregiver, who coordinate care from a distance, who manage the paperwork without providing hands-on care, are often overlooked. Their stories get lost, especially since they rarely use the term “caregiver.”

There are so many different terms used to describe caregiving and caregiving is itself an umbrella term to describe many different things. Many people who provide care don’t identify what they do with a specific label, outside of their role as a partner, friend, or other relationship. All of this can make it difficult to know who counts as a “real” caregiver.

There are so many terms because it’s rare for any of them to fit quite right and many of them are problematic. They are often legal or technical designations that don’t reflect our personal experiences. Care relationships are rarely one directional. Many people providing care also have disabilities and chronic health conditions.

Outside of discussing support provided by one person to another, caregiving is a term used to refer to very different things by the cannabis industry, the fetish community, and property maintenance. In psychology, “caregiver” and “caretaker” are used to label different relationship dynamics.

All of this makes it incredibly difficult to find resources that are relevant to your situation and to connect with people who’ve experienced similar circumstances. That’s why this database exists.

We curate resources our community has found insightful, powerful, and helpful. These are categorized based on the situation they discuss, type of care provided, characteristics of author, and relationship between care provider and recipient. Stories are also tagged with terms, like the disease or condition, so you can easily locate articles that relate to your life.

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